Plus and minus for my partner-pair communication

Posted on January 28, 2010
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Dancing pair is not the easiest thing to do in the world.
Each comes with its own way of relating to people with their own experiences with other partners, with their limits of physical contact with their own way of learning (the choreography, for example), with their own desires and fantasies.

Sometimes seems difficult to form a pair in which to be happy so you and your partner. Over the years I have often heard said out loud complaints about the other while remaining self-related complaints (also often) just told you. And in one case and in other outcome is likely to be distrust in the other, (sometimes) weak argument and therefore benefits the dance floor.

So today will propose some very simple exercises with which you can take the first step to establish or restore peace in pairs. The first step is called open communication. The idea of this exercise is that each partner what you appreciate or say where I think the other has to work. At the same time the receiver can feed back through the other's opinions to realize the strengths and weaknesses they have.

Rules
Like any exercise of course there are some rules to follow. Simple rules are not for everyone, but if you think you will find Practice very easy.

1: do these exercises together and set a time in which to practice. For example a week.
2: talk to each other and let your partner know what you think
3: Practice while partner give feedback without reproach for what or what did or did not ..
4: choose together a time to give your partner feedback. It may after a dance during intermission or after your workout.

Exercises
Exercise 1: Name three qualities you see in your partner. Quality must be strictly related to dance and specific as possible. Tell them to know them. Eg will it lead to good standard, has a beautiful position and remain calm when you get angry if you're wrong. You might be surprised by the qualities they valued partner with you. The week chosen for the exercise you can decide for example to give feed-back at the end of training and tell for example that dance / figure will run very well.

Exercise 2: Name three things you see as a dance partner and they should improve their. Remember it's just an exercise. Say calmly and without reproach what you said. Just listen to what your partner has to say about you. Even if it sometimes seems that the other puts you on the wall with his critics, think that that is his point of view. Whether you see things differently.

You can give your feedback after you noticed dancing partner doing what to you do not like to do. Do not start discussions that may degenerate into strife. Just say what you said, plus possibly give a reply / explanation.

Further evaluation and
Chosen for the exercise weekend evaluate what you have learned. In case of differences that can occur in exercise 2, note that the "judge" one dance coaches. Ask to look at you several times during training and to tell you what to do. And this costs only a few minutes.

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